*hugs* Thank you. When I read this bit:

Anybody who tries to make somebody feel like an idiot for doing something wrong -- especially when it's a reasonable mistake, but really, even if it were something like, somebody new to development firmly insists the site is made of green cheese or something -- is not upholding the principles of the DW community, and believe me, if I see that happening from anybody, I will Have Words with them.

I realised that's a very good description oqf what I'm doing to myself. So I gotta treat myself better ... I'm working on that!